Being in a relationship with your soulmate is one of the best things that could ever happen in your life. As you see, not everyone is blessed to find their soulmate right away. Some had to go through a series of breakups before finding a suitable match, while others had already given up finding love after being hurt once or twice.
But even if you’re dating your soulmate, relationships are bound to have ups and downs. Some days will be filled with arguments and there would be times that you would rarely see or talk to each other due to hectic schedules and work commitments. Thus, you may ask, ‘How can I stay attracted to my partner despite difficult and challenging years in the relationship?’
Every relationship will have its roadblocks and setbacks. Hence, you and your partner need to work together to keep the attraction and passion alive. Here are five ways you can stay attracted with your partner for life.
1.Be Friends With Your Partner
Some people say that the best love story begins with friendship. But whether you and your partner started out as friends or quickly jumped into lovers, it’s essential that both of you should be friends. By being friends, it means that you’ll be supporting each other’s individual goals and interests and give each other space and time to open up and share whatever you need to say. Imagine being with someone you can’t even share or vent out to; it sucks.
Relationships are not only about romantic dates and intimate moments but also about communication and companionship—which are all present in a solid friendship. When you keep your friendship alive, mutual respect, spark, and attraction will follow.
Aside from keeping your friendship, make sure you don’t forget about flirting either. Just because you’ve been together for several years, that doesn’t mean you can stop flirting with your partner. Keep that flirting game alive as well, the same way you used to do when you began dating.
You can send sexy and flirty messages to your partner when they’re at work, give a naughty wink when you’re both in a crowded room, or whisper them something naughty before you leave for work. All these will make them want you more, and you might even have great sex every night. Remember, sex isn’t only about the pleasure it brings, but also about the attraction you feel for your partner. The stronger the attraction is, the better the sex will be.
3. Keep The Romance Burning Outside The Bedroom
Besides flirting and great sex, it’s also essential that you keep the romance burning outside your bedroom. So, other than sex, make sure you also plan romantic dates, do something nice together, or pull off some surprises every once in a while. In other words, never stop dating! Being in a long-term relationship shouldn’t be a reason to stop wooing and pursuing each other.
If you admit to being forgetful, you can list down your partner’s favorite things, movies, places, or anything that’s important to them. Then, you can use this to plan dates or arrange surprises that will make your partner happy. Don’t worry, you don’t need to plan complicated and expensive dates to stay attracted. Even as simple as remembering to get them coffee every morning can already do much in keeping the romance and attraction alive.
4. Never Stop Appreciating And Complimenting Each Other
Just like how you compliment and appreciate your best friends or co-workers at work, make sure you do the same for your partner. A simple ‘you look nice today’ or ‘your hair smells nice’ can go a long way in boosting their self-confidence and keep the attraction alive. When you constantly compliment your partner about their looks or how they dress, the more they’ll feel that you’re paying attention to them, and they’ll also do the same for you.
Aside from compliments, you also need to show your appreciation and gratefulness for everything your partner has done. Don’t forget to say thank you for every little thing they do for you. Both of you can also practice expressing your appreciation every night before you sleep.
5. Do Exciting Things Together
One of the best and easiest things you can do to stay attracted to the relationship is trying out new and exciting things together. Trying out new things will be like a breath of fresh air in your relationship. You can either eat in a new restaurant, travel to a place you’ve never been to before, or renovate your room together for the first time. These new adventures will keep both of you attracted to one another. Such activities also serve as an opportunity to get to know each other more!
The Bottom Line
Sustaining a long-term relationship is easy if you’re with the right person. However, that does not mean that you should just sit back and ignore the needs of your partner. The longer you’re together, the more time and effort you’ll both need to invest in the relationship to keep the attraction and spark burning.